Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan

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At a dead end? Don’t let that stop you!

May 9th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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Every once in a while you come to a point where you realize that your life story has become stalled, redundant or downright boring. When you find yourself at this point it becomes clear, there is no other option, it’s time to turn the page and start a new chapter. That being said, it is not always that easy!

Why do we hang on for dear life to something that may have run its course a long time ago? Being a positive person I like to think it’s out of hope but sometimes it’s just that we are not really ready to move forward. Maybe there is some comfort in the old weathered worn pages of our life. It smells and feels familiar like a well worn blanket or pillow but it can smother us if we let it. The trick is in knowing when it’s time to purge and move on.

I have learned through my business that the road to success is to keep an eye on things. You need to be able to assess, adapt or evolve in order to keep moving forward, if you wish to attain your goals. I think life can be like that as well. It can be easy to get stalled in a rut and sometimes we have to shake things up a little in order to get back on track.

When we find ourselves at a dead end it forces us to pause and rethink our journey. That’s not to say that the road we were on was the wrong one, it may just have run its course. Life is like that, it throws us curveballs. It’s up to us to handle what is thrown in our direction the best way we know how. Sometimes we drop the ball, sometimes we hit a homerun but other times we have to start anew by getting off the fence.

My journey has taught me is that life is not about getting to the end of the road and finding the great prize, it is the journey! Trust me I know, life is not always a carefree scenic trip! What we need to remember is that even when we are struggling over the bumps, potholes, flood waters, head on crashes or feel like we are running out of gas, it is all part of the trip! I hope to make mine memorable!

So what are you going to do to make it the best adventure you can? You can start by putting one foot in front of the other, welcome change and keep moving forward!

I welcome the next chapter in my life! Ready or not, here I come!
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Three relationships to make one work?

April 19th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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Jeremy Cid (Always opening doors)

Jeremy Cid (Always opening doors)

“Today I would like to introduce Jeremy Cid my guest blogger. Jeremy is a relationship coach and has great insight for singles and couples looking to build lasting connections.”

We are all aware that there different types of relationships and that different things/actions/thought patterns are required to make each one work. To generalize the definition of a relationship, we refer to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary which defines a relationship as “a kinship or a state of affairs existing between those having interactions or dealings.”

As a relationship coach, I work with clients in all different relationships. It should come as no surprise that the majority of my work does focus on intimate relationships. So what would you say if I told you that the most successful couples actually spend time focusing on three relationships in order to make the one relationship between them, not only functional, but as close as possible to being ideal?

Before I provide a visual example of what I mean, I think it’s important to understand the basics of our relationships. Then I will provide a success formula that shows how to have a complete and fulfilling relationship.

Most of us have played with Legos at some point and time in our lives. I see our lives as Legos. Each block represents every experience we have had in our lives. The older we are, the more Lego blocks we have with which to build. Our experiences build our lives and a person with a healthy mindset and keen self-awareness can build something magnificent all on their own. When we meet someone, they have their own set of Lego blocks with which they have built their life. When we decide to share our lives with that person, we combine the unique set of experiences we each have to build something bigger, better and even more fulfilling.

In other words, we are just kids playing in this giant sandbox with our own set of Legos. From time to time, we see another kid with whom we are drawn and decide that we want to play with them. So we grab our Legos and scoot over to put ours with them and play together. What that shows is that the most important and most basic relationship in our lives is the one that we have with ourselves. So when you are involved in an intimate relationship with another person, the formula for the success of that relationship would look like:

HIM WITH HER + HIM WITH HIMSELF + HER WITH HERSELF = SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

If any part of that equation is missing, then you can’t possibly achieve a successful relationship. It’s like an algebra equation. If one of the variables are missing, you have to solve for that missing variable before you have the correct answer. Let’s use me as an example. If there is something with which I am dissatisfied in my life which I am neglecting, the relationship that I have with myself is going to prevent me from achieving the desired result.

ME WITH HER + HER WITH HERSELF + X = RELATIONSHIP

Realize that you can still have a relationship, even with the missing variable. That doesn’t mean that it is the right answer for you/her/him or both of you. Before you can fix something that is wrong in your relationship, you have to spend the time finding the answers to fix the relationship within the relationship – the one with yourself. After all, it’s the only relationship in your life in which you will ever have 100% control. Every other one gives you 50% control over the outcome of any situation because you have involved a variable over which you have no control.

WRITTEN FOR MATCH-WORKS MATCHMAKING BY JEREMY CID, ALWAYS OPENING DOORS © 2012 VISIT OUR WEBSITE HERE
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Jeremy Cid (Always opening doors)

Jeremy Cid (Always opening doors)

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Is Sexting Cheating?

March 13th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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Thanks to cell phones, IPod’s, laptop computers we now have immediate access to a multitude of people anywhere, everywhere. Unfortunately when anything is too easy it tempts the weak and feeds addictive behaviours such as cheating or at least virtually cheating. Herein lies the question, Is Sexting Cheating?

Anthony Weiner is a prime example of Sexting and Cheating! Obviously his wife and the rest of the political world thought it was inappropriate but what does the general public think?

Have you ever sexted or texted something sexual to someone other than your significant other?

Do you think it should be excusable for either partner to be able to have these sexting activities?

Where would you draw the line?

Why would you be sexting someone else anyways?

If you knew it would hurt your partner would you do it?

How would you feel if your found out your partner had a sexting buddy or buddies?

How do you think your partner would feel?

Even though there is no actual physical interaction do you think sexting is cheating?

Do you think it leads to real cheating?

Do you think in any way that it would benefit your significant relationship?

My personal thought is cheating is cheating and once you start thinking about having sex with someone else it is a very slippery slope till you actually do. I personally would not want to know my partner was thinking about someone else sexually, I would like to think they wouldn’t feel the need. It would certainly damage my relationship if I found out that they did.
I would love to know your thoughts!

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Boost your potential to find the perfect partner! (guest Blogger)

February 24th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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I am constantly hearing this complaint!(Including from Me!!!!) I just can’t seem to lose these last few pounds and I know I would feel better about myself if I could. Crash diets don’t work in the long run so we need some real solid ideas on how to tackle this issue. When we are looking to find a great match for ourselves the first person we have to start with is ourselves, DO WE HAVE OUR BEST FOOT FORWARD? Men and women!

Guest blogger Crystal Higgins, BSc., RD has some great insight!
Boost your potential to find the perfect partner with whole food nutrition!

Food-And-Nutrition

The foods that you choose on a daily basis are not only necessary to fuel your body, but can also impact your energy, mood and appearance. The old cliché, “You are What You Eat” certainly stills holds true.

Good nutrition and healthy eating habits are especially pertinent when searching for your perfect partner. You want to look and feel your best to make that first impression a lasting one!

We are constantly bombarded with nutrient claims, new diets and product trends. Unfortunately food business and nutrition professionals often have divergent goals. For example, what is good for business is not always good for our bodies! At the end of day, the bottom line is which products sell well – remember this when you see the next commercial for Special K or Chocolate Cheerios! Unfortunately there’s not a whole lot of money to be made from advertising fresh broccoli and local berries.

Processed and packaged foods line the aisles in grocery stores, drug stores and convenience shops and serve as an easy way out for many of us. They are typically cheap, have a long shelf life and fill that “grab’ n ’go” need for our busy lifestyles – buyer beware! Even “organic”, “natural” or “low-fat” foods may not be the best choice. Take the extra 15 seconds to look at the nutrition facts to find foods with less sugar, fat and sodium – aim for < 15% of the daily value (DV). Look for foods that contain MORE fibre and satiating protein for longer lasting energy.

Better yet, avoid the packaged food altogether and opt for whole fresh foods that don’t even have a label or quasi-nutrient claims. Shop the perimeter of the store and load up on colourful veggies, fruits, low fat dairy, eggs, nuts, legumes and lean proteins such as fish, chicken and turkey. These foods are linked to lower odds for major depression and chronic disease.

So what specific foods should YOU eat to boost your mood, look and chances of finding the right match? Everybody has different taste preferences, but some of my favourites include wild salmon, oatmeal, edamame, lentils, chickpeas, spinach, berries, yams as well as the new and trendy hemp hearts & chia seeds.

If you find yourself confused with all of the scientific jargon out there, remember this: IF MOTHER NATURE MADE IT, EAT IT!

I am actually using her insight and information and am finally losing the weight that crept on in the last few years! I know first hand, it really does work!

For a more detailed look at your own nutrition needs, consider consulting with a registered dietitian (RD). Many health insurance plans cover the cost of an RD, up to $500.

Crystal Higgins, BSc., RD
Registered Dietitian & Nutrition Consultant
Nuvo Nutrition
www.nuvonutrition.com
crystal@nuvonutrition.com
604-764-9593

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Valentine’s Day stress free!

February 13th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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Feb 14th is here again and it promises hearts, flowers, chocolates and magical love right? Or it can cause panic uncertainty or downright fear if you are in a relationship. Why, because of the fear of messing it up, not living up to the fantasy. Relax I am here to help! I can tell you all the secrets you need to know about creating a great Valentine’s Day.

Men, you probably think all I have to do is spend a lot of money on her and she will fall into your arms. Really, how’s that been working for you so far? What women really want you to do is pay attention! Put more thought into your gift than money. If you are planning on giving her some chocolates make sure you know what kind she really likes, not your favourite kind but hers! Make sure she is not allergic! Does she like milk, dark or white, with nuts or not! If you are thinking about flowers do you know what kind she likes, not all women love roses! Maybe its orchids or daisies! But whatever you do don’t forget the card, women are emotional creatures. If you want to reach out and touch her later start with touching her heart or you may end up in the doghouse all alone. Men honestly don’t care about a card, but if you bought him a complete auto detailing for his car he would adore you! Remember to think like the opposite sex when picking a gift, after all the idea is to make them happy, right? Everyone wants to believe our partners think we are special, so why not show them!

What about lingerie? I think people have it all mixed up, I don’t recommend men buy lingerie for their partners. What if you buy something too big or god forbid too small, either way you are screwed unless you get it just right. You could give her a gift certificate though. so she could go pick out something special to share with you later. Or better yet I think women should buy the lingerie themselves and model it for their partners on V.Day, after all who is it really for? If a woman is comfortable in her lingerie (THAT IT PLAYS UP HER ASSETS) she will feel a lot sexier ….need I explain the benefits of that, for both of you?

I am actually a firm believer that we should show our appreciation for our partners all year long not just Valentine’s Day but some of you need a little reminder and without a set day romance can get overlooked. On the day restaurants will be full of couples so if you haven’t made reservations you can forget getting any at this late date. If you want to you can always give them a gift certificate for a dinner out in their favourite restaurant for another night when you can actually pick off the full menu. But for this night how about making dinner together? If you have children, isn’t it time for them to have a visit to Grandma’s? You can pick up all their favourite finger foods, put on a little mood music, light a few candles and ignite that passion. Just make sure and blow out the candles before you climb into bed, always practice safe sex! But by all means practice, practice!

Ladies if you happen to be single and fearing spending it alone why not spend it with a fabulous friend, order in some yummy takeout food (stay away from romantic restaurants full of couples) and give each other facials or manicures or watch an uplifting movie complete with popcorn. (just don’t pick a sappy love story) While you are at it you can relish the fact that you can lounge around in your jammies with no makeup on and you only have to pick up after yourself. Men I know there is always a sports event on TV that can distract you and while you’re at it go ahead and appreciate the fact you don’t have to share the remote, eat healthy or even put on pants.

I wish you all a Fabulous Valentine’s Day no matter who you are! Make it a great one no matter what you do! We are all responsible for our own Happiness! Yes, emotionally and physically!  Keep in mind, whatever you focus on that’s what you will get, so focus on the positives alone or together! 

If you would like a little help to find that perfect match give me a call. 778-330-1204.

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Bloglovin

January 19th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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Do you think Vancouver Men suck?

January 17th, 2012 by Sheree Morgan
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What am I doing lately!

December 14th, 2011 by Sheree Morgan
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I have known for 5 years that I had Fuch’s Dystrophy, to sum it up, it means my cornea’s are dying. Last Friday I had my first cornea transplant and cataract surgery in an attempt to save my sight. In an effort to inform and possibly help someone that might be facing a similar problem I am sharing my experience via another blog. If you would like to read about this I have included the link below.

http://myeyesarefuched.wordpress.com/2011/12/10/diagnosis-fuchs-dystrophy/

I am still a Matchmaker, dating coach and blogger I am just on a short detour for awhile while recovering.

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Being Single during the Holidays

November 26th, 2011 by Sheree Morgan
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Bride's bouquetThe holidays can be stressful for anyone but there seems to be an added level of stress if you happen to be single. Every Christmas commercial, song, movie and card shows families and loved ones gathered together for the holidays. But what if you don`t happen to have anyone? I  know first hand of this pain because I don`t have any other family, other than my children. I divorced my ex when my children were 2 and 5 and that meant having to share them every Holiday.  I would spend at least one tear filled Chistmas eve or Christmas day alone, not my finest memories.

Even if you are comfortable on your own most of the time, there is something that screams “poor me” when you are faced with the possibility of a holiday alone.  I was very fortunate to have a lot of dear friends who invited me to share their homes and families over the years, they have no idea how much that meant to me.

It is not a surprise I created a Business helping others find their match. I truly believe everyone deserves to find someone special, humans are not meant to spend their lives alone! We all want to be loved and appreciated especially over the holidays. I struggle every holiday listening to Christmas songs, it`s almost as if they are written to tear our hearts out. The holidays DO NOT have to be heartbreaking, even if you are single! Here are a few ideas that might help:

Socializing 101 offers lots of helpful ideas, check it out.  http://www.match-works.com/vancouverdating/index.php/2010/11/21/socializing-101/  

Try inviting other single orphans to your house and sharing a POTLUCK holiday dinner. Everyone can bring their favourite dish. So easy and so much fun!

What about volunteering your time at a hospital or homeless shelter, there is always someone out there worse off than you are! When we offer a helping had to others we stop feeling sorry for ourselves!

Van Dusen’s Festival of Lights Show is an amazing way to enjoy a snowy evening with another single friend. I could go one and on but if you google your local area activities you are bound to find many more events to check out and don’t forget to socialize with everyone, everywhere! http://vancouver.ca/parks/parks/vandusen/website/events/fol.htm

Like anything in life the holidays are what we make of it. So what are going to do?  I wish everyone the very best holiday season! Now get busy and start planning a fabulous one!

If you would like some help finding that special someone to share future holidays with contact me at 778-30-1204 or at the very least send me your profile for consideration as a possible match. http://www.match-works.com/Database.html

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Unrealistic Expectations.

November 21st, 2011 by Sheree Morgan
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couple walking on the beachHave you ever thought about why you are alone, why have you not managed to find that special someone? I know you blame everyone and everything but have you ever thought you may be setting yourself up for failure.  From personal observation as a professional Matchmaker I can tell you the biggest obstacle is UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS!  You have no idea the disservice you are doing to yourself by having a wish list longer than Santa`s! 

The surprising thing is the younger (first timers) are generally more open minded, less judgemental and carry way less baggage into their search. They are more apt to make compatibility the top priority when looking for their best friend and lover to share their life with and raise a family. Considering they have a  much bigger playing field already it is no wonder these matches are so much easier to complete.  It is the (second timers) men and women in their 40`s plus who tend to be more unrealistic. They completely forget that their playing field is now drastically smaller than when they were in their 20`s or 30`s and their wish list can become so unrealistic that sometimes I doubt that anyone can ever live up to those expectations, at any age.

Here are a few examples:

The top requirements I get from men in this group is young, hot, slim and extremely attractive, no matter what they look like themselves. Beauty can get really ugly if she treats you like a doormat and you have nothing in common. Besides hot is often closely related to selfish and crazy.

The top requirements I get from women is tall (6`plus) even if they are 5′ themselves.  I have dated many tall men and trust me height is no guarantee of a good man.

They won’t travel further than 1/2 hour away to meet someone. Some of the best matches I have made consisted of someone traveling well over 4 or 5 hours away.  Matchmakers often match people all over the world, but these people are open and interested in finding the right match not the right address.  

Not everyone falls in love at first sight (and those are usually just lust at first sight anyways) yet most people expect to know in one date. Some of the best relationships blossom from a deep friendship.

They limit their selection to Caucasian only, often they themselves are not Caucasian but they won’t even consider dating within their own nationality. (discrimination is limiting, no what what your nationality)

They put financial expectations ahead of personality traits. Money cannot buy you Happiness! Look at the Kim Kardashian marriage.  

They believe there is someone out there that is perfect and they will never have to do any work to make the relationship work, that is just not reality, any relationship takes an effort on both sides.

I can go on and on but I think you get the point. I have been fortunate enough to find great matches for many happy clients but the best way to help yourself is to be completely honest about the things you really do need in a partnership. I think the bottom line is we all want to be loved, respected and appreciated by our partners and  to be able to enjoy  each others company. Matchmakers do not have a magic wand, contrary to popular belief they cannot pull Mr. or Mrs. Perfect out of a hat, but they can assist you in finding a great match, if you work with them. Even if you don’t use a Matchmaker you would be well advised to seriously assess your wish list and stick to what you really need to be happy!

Yes the playing field is much smaller for second timers but it is possible to find someone and have a happy, healthy, lasting relationship. I guarantee if you are a little more open minded and limit your expectations to what really matters you will find someone that is a good possible match. Best of luck and if I can be of help please call me at 778-330-1204, please keep in mind no one is Perfect, including you and me! :)

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