Comments on: Why is everyone else getting everything you want! http://www.match-works.com/vancouverdating/index.php/2009/03/19/why-is-everyone-else-getting-everything-you-want/ Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan Sat, 21 Jan 2012 20:31:52 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: vancouverdating http://www.match-works.com/vancouverdating/index.php/2009/03/19/why-is-everyone-else-getting-everything-you-want/comment-page-1/#comment-13 vancouverdating Wed, 25 Mar 2009 23:16:33 +0000 http://vancouverdating.wordpress.com/?p=59#comment-13 I totally agree, very insightful. Check out my latest post about unconditional love. I totally agree, very insightful. Check out my latest post about unconditional love.

]]> By: Ryan http://www.match-works.com/vancouverdating/index.php/2009/03/19/why-is-everyone-else-getting-everything-you-want/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Ryan Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:44:30 +0000 http://vancouverdating.wordpress.com/?p=59#comment-11 Throw away the wish list. The more things you have on your wish list, the harder you make it to find someone. Let's look at some numbers. (numbers are estimates taken from the 2006 census) Using myself as an example: I'm looking for a single female, hetero, aged 30-39. Only four things on the list. Vancouver (city) population ~560,000 % female aprox 50% down to 280,000 % single aprox 45% (25% never married) and we're down to 126,000 % hetero 95% down to 120,000 age 30-39, 15% down to 18,000 So there should be 18,000 women who fit the bill with only 4 requirements. Already we're down to only 3% of the population. Half that if previously married women are not considered. If we add in other conditions (job, education, no drug use, active, no kids, religion) and we narrow the pool down even further. Getting kinda shallow, eh? Add in things like hot, tall, thin, blue eyed, red hair, has car etc. and suddenly there isn't much out there that fits the wish list. And we haven't even talked about attraction or chemistry! The numbers get even worse if we run the numbers for people in their 40's or 50's. Ladies can expect the numbers for men to be similar. Forget the wish list. Make a list of absolute musts. Keep it short. Be willing to meet and consider anyone who fills in the "musts" column. Keep the size of your pool as big as possible and maximize your chances of success. Throw away the wish list. The more things you have on your wish list, the harder you make it to find someone. Let’s look at some numbers. (numbers are estimates taken from the 2006 census)

Using myself as an example: I’m looking for a single female, hetero, aged 30-39. Only four things on the list.

Vancouver (city) population ~560,000
% female aprox 50% down to 280,000
% single aprox 45% (25% never married) and we’re down to 126,000
% hetero 95% down to 120,000
age 30-39, 15% down to 18,000

So there should be 18,000 women who fit the bill with only 4 requirements. Already we’re down to only 3% of the population. Half that if previously married women are not considered.

If we add in other conditions (job, education, no drug use, active, no kids, religion) and we narrow the pool down even further. Getting kinda shallow, eh? Add in things like hot, tall, thin, blue eyed, red hair, has car etc. and suddenly there isn’t much out there that fits the wish list. And we haven’t even talked about attraction or chemistry!

The numbers get even worse if we run the numbers for people in their 40’s or 50’s. Ladies can expect the numbers for men to be similar.

Forget the wish list. Make a list of absolute musts. Keep it short. Be willing to meet and consider anyone who fills in the “musts” column. Keep the size of your pool as big as possible and maximize your chances of success.

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