Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan

How many of you have uttered the words “there just aren’t any good men (or women) left out there”? Okay I’ll admit it, I have once or twice . Usually right after finding out that my latest date or relationship was not really what I was hoping it would be.  Think about that last line? Sound familiar?  (That’s a whole other post on realistic or rather unrealistic expectations.)

If you have read “the secret” or as I knew it originally “the power of positive thinking”  you know what I mean. Okay I  just showed my age, hey with age comes wisdom, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. Sorry I veered off the subject a bit, but I like to bring a little humour into everything I do, or try to. If you truly believe that there is someone out there for you, you have a better chance of attracting it. You have to start with believing that you are worthy of a respectful loving relationship and that you are capable of having one. If you don’t believe it, no one else will. Make a list, I don’t mean a fantasy wish list, I mean list what you truly need in a relationship and what you bring to the table as well. Remember that you should not put anything on the list if you are not capable of it yourself. I know you have heard it before, “it all starts with you” but it really does.

Instead of stating a negative, start with a positive.  “I am ready for a truly respectful loving relationship and I know that there is an amazing person out there just for me”.  The truth is there are probably many, we just need to find the right ones. Your mantra can be worded any way that makes you feel positive about who you want to welcome into your life, but the trick is you really have to believe it.

Last December I was going to go to Calgary looking for great single men,as I was repeatedly told that there were no good men left in Vancouver. Sarah Rowland from 24 hrs magazine wrote a column about just that, saying that I was in search of the elusive, single, good men in Vancouver. You would be surprised at how many nice,  amazing, single men stepped forward. Mind you a few stepped back when they realized that it would cost them something. hmmmmmm! What it did though, was make me realize not to give up on men or women in Vancouver.  Before I take on a client, besides my full background screening, I make sure that they really are ready for a relationship and that they are not looking to date the world,You can go online for that.  I make sure that they understand, if you are convinced that you won’t find anyone, that is exactly what you will get.  You have to believe. If you  are negative and  are convinced that there is no one out there for you, you actually distract people. Think about it, We all love to be around positive people, nothing draws you in more than a person that is friendly positive and smiling. Not a fake front, but someone that is truly positive and  happy.  Someone who knows that their glass is half full not half empty.

I know you are saying ,”well that’s fine for extroverts” even if you are an introvert you can still show your positive nature. Believe in yourself, your desired future relationship and start by smiling.  I have said it before, but it really works, nothing opens up the door for communication faster than a smile. Consider it a welcome mat, not everyone will come in, but someone that is interested will.  I don’t think that anyone has ever died from trying to smile at a stranger.   I know sometimes it may seem like a big scary world out there, but think how much nicer it will be when you have that special someone to share it with.  Vancouver truly does have some amazing wonderful men and women here ( I have met a lot of them) , the trick is being open, ready, positive, have faith and believe.  You never know who might be just around the corner.

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