Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan

Okay, I am still here, I have not jumped.  Actually my problems are still here today, I am just coping with them much better.   Life is messy and sometimes we get our butts kicked, literally and figuratively, it’s how we handle it that matters. I do apologize that last week I did not handle it to the best of my abilities.  I too am human and I thought it was important for me to share that everyone of us, (even Polyanna, me )  can succumb to the stress load.

At the beginning of last weekend, the weather forecast was dismal, unpredictable and possibly stormy, kind of like my spirits. As much as I wanted to just look at the positive, which is my norm, I was swept up in my own little pity party, (not good, I agree.)  As I struggled to find the good in the day, good friends emerged. The end result was my post  “thank god for good friends”. Those of you that read it will realize that yes, I was still able to be grateful for my dear supportive friends, so I guess I was not a totally lost cause. I realize that I put unrealistic expectations on myself, thinking that I should know all the answers and behave perfectly all the time. But why can’t I? Because I am human and humans make mistakes.

In these challenging times we may be able to handle one or two stress triggers. It can be a whole different story when faced with a whole bushel of imperfections and a few days of spinning our wheels.  Which is where I was and am still dealing with. Some very good friends came to my support  but at the same time I was dealing with other people that really just added to my stress and that’s where I was pushed over the line.  But that was my unrealistic expectation, I expected them to understand where I was coming from and they really were so wrapped in their own thing that they had no idea that they were adding to my already shaky demeanor. I continually say that we are all responsible for our own happiness and that it is up to us to choose to be happy, but I didn’t. I let the negative take hold of me and kick my butt. I try to think that I can handle everything and that I don’t need anyone to lean on, but the truth is that everyone of us, needs a good  friend and a good shoulder to lean on, once in a while. Without passing judgement, without a lecture, without adding more crap to our already struggling self esteem!  Don’t you appreciate it when someone else is there for you? Believe me there is no one else that can beat me up more than myself, No help needed in that area, Thank You!

Anyways enough of the negative, the sun may not be shining today, but my spirits are better. I am not expecting to solve everything by myself, I realize that I have people that  love and support me and hopefully that within a week all this crap will be over. The stress level in todays world is already enough, throw on the struggling economy and our imperfections and unrealistic expectations and we have a recipe for stress overload. I wish you all the strength to handle all of life’s daily stresses and when it becomes to much to bear that you have wonderful supportive friends to lean on.

You have probably seen these  thoughts below, but it may help a bit to remember. I sent this to a friend last week and they just phoned me to say that it really helped them as they too were struggling . (So somehow unbeknown to me I was able to help another,which makes me very happy)

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick, your friends and
parents will, stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument, agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone, It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God, he can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others, you have no idea what their
journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. 

16. Take a deep breath, it calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood, but the second one is
up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no
for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie, don’t save it for a special occasion, today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now, don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will
this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything, give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously, no one else does.

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