I was right, last night Jillian picked Ed on the Bachelorette! How many of you watched last night? Come on you can admit it, it’s a guilty pleasure. I won’t tell anyone! lol lol Â
Monday morning I was fortunate enough to be invited to Breakfast Television (Channel 13) to participate in the discussion panel for the Bachelorette. I was interviewed by Riaz with a comedian and writer about our thoughts on who she would pick. I picked ED for no other reason than I saw her reaction to him. When she first saw him she gasped ever so slightly, she had that moment, which I refer to as instant chemistry.  It can happen within 4-6 seconds, seriously. It is not a guarantee of a good relationship, it does not guarantee that they can or will fall in love, but it is a great start.  It can also make us do some really stupid things. 
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Some people refer to this as love at first sight.  I do not believe in love at first sight, I think that true love takes time, but I do believe in lust at first sight, thanks to that wonderful thing called chemistry. Did you know that I was a science major, that’s my story and I am sticking to it. Science and English actually, makes sense that I would end up in this area of expertise.   While dating 30 guys, whittling down to 18 and then 3 on the  Bachelorette,  Jillian really only had enough time to gauge chemistry. It is my belief that True love does not happen over night, it takes time and grows slowly. You have to really get to know someone on a day to day level, not only on romantic fantasy dates.Â
It may sound like a fantasy come true, having all these eligible  bachelors vying for her attention,  but is it really? ( at least they are supposed to be eligible, remember Wes, the jury is still out on that one.) Jillian did look like she was confused many times, though she managed to make her own decisions all the way, which I must commend her for. It must be so hard to navigate through all these men.  I am still not completely sure about all the kissing that was going on. 
Seriously men if you really were interested in her, would you have difficulty knowing that she was dating 18 other men (that you also know) at the same time and if she was kissing you passionately, she was probably kissing all the others. I hope Ed never sees the shows I doubt that he really wants to see that.   At our age, We all know that our potential partners have been with others, but would you really want to watch. If he is smart he won’t watch it, ever!!!!
As for the lack of sexual connection that they played up with Ed and Jillian’s evening alone, seriously that is no surprise. As some of you know I have been an actor for over 20 years, I can tell you for certain that there is nothing romantic about trying to be romantic with someone (that you barely know and even harder if you feel something for them ) in front of an entire camera crew, bright lights, no AC. Throw in too much sun, exhaustion, alot of stress and lets talk performance anxiety (not that they were going to perform, but you know what I mean). Especially if he really felt something for her, which obviously he did. These moments are meant to be sacred, romantic and private and there was nothing  private and romantic about it.   I have no doubt that in a private space there will be no real issues there. You can see the connection in their eyes, it was there when they first met, remember Jillian gasped ever so slightly. Â
I for one want to wish them the best of luck, as they really get to know each other, this is were the real challenge comes in, they have committed to looking at a relationship together. Just remember their are 3 steps to a successful relationship.
The cocktail stage, this is where they were on the show and are at now all those lovely endorphins, dopamine etc. It really is like a drug.
The reality stage which is were they start to discover what each other is like in their day to day world, good and bad. Little things that we thought were so cute at first, now start to irritate us. (Alot of people drop off at this stage).
The bliss stage takes time and energy and commitment to get to this stage, but the rewards are well worth it. Couples have explored and worked through their bad times as well as their good times and they now realize that they still love that person, as a matter of fact it is where true love actually takes over.  Total commitment and acceptance is what we all want, but it does take time to get there and if we are lucky enough to get through the reality stage we totally deserve it. But it does not stop there, we need to continue to nurture and treasure that relationship if we want it to survive.
Any good relationship takes effort, commitment, respect and acceptance by both parties. Anything worth while takes time and energy, including a good relationship, but the rewards are well worth it. I wish ED and Jillian all the best, they look like a lovely couple, let’s hope they stay that way!!!!
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Yap you are absolutely right, the first time I saw them together, I noticed the connection rightaway. I predicted since day one that Ed is the man and if Ed didn’t come back, she would not have chosen anyone, not even Kiptyn. I knew then that he is the one and I am more confident now that they will be married . Obviously,they have a lot of work to do to keep their relationship stronger (esp. after what has transpired lately) but knowing that deep connection & love they share, they will be better couple in the end.Wish them luck and may they live happily forever.