Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan

The holidays can be a hectic time  and being single need not add any more stress. Here a few tips to help you make the most of  the festivities:

1.  Instead of passing on holiday parties and events because you don’t have a date, go by yourself, but do not put expectations on meeting anyone (who knows you may have a pleasant surprise).

2.  Instead of waiting for invitations to other parties, throw one of your own. A festive potluck meal, tree trimming party or other holiday event.

3.  Don’t  overdo it, do not make plans out of a sense of obligation. This is also your holiday season. Set limits, make good choices and enjoy.

4.  Try a different approach. Don’t be so picky. Step outside your comfort zone and don’t be so rigid about hair color or style preference.

5.  Network for your social life at events, talk to everyone including couples, they may have a friend or family member that is perfect for you.

6.  Don’t let  the holidays get you down. Your life is full of possibilities and every day can be an adventure. Don’t give up hope and be sure to  expand your options.

7.  Avoid unrealistic expectations from others, from yourself and from the holidays themselves. This will defeat all the positive feelings and experiences that you do have.

8.  Don’t overbook OR overstay with relatives or friends. Sometimes a shorter stay works best and allows you energy and space to get back to your own home and decompress.

9.  Look for ways to give to or do for others, volunteer at local shelters, nursing homes or non-profit groups. Feeling useful and appreciated will provide a great boost to your holiday spirits.

10. Don’t plan to spend the entire holiday season with married family and friends. Seek out other singles activities, or organize some, Van Dusen Festival of lights, Stanley Park’s lights.

11. Do avoid using food, alcohol or drugs to cope with holiday stress. This way of coping leads to depression, low self-esteem and a greater sense of isolation and despair.

12. Do decorate your home with any and all things that make it feel more festive and fun for YOU.  Make your life all it can be right now.

13. Consider emphasizing the more spiritual aspects of the holiday. Go to a concert featuring holiday music or attend a church service, (invite  a friend or family member).

14. If you are proactive and think outside the box, (consider using a matchmaker)  there is a better chance you will be with someone next holiday season.

Whatever you decide to do for your holidays, have fun and enjoy them but allow  to recover. Focus on taking care of yourself and doing what is right for you. This way you will also be giving your best to those around you. Happy Holidays!

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