Vancouver Dating by Matchmaker and Dating Expert Sheree Morgan

Social Media is everywhere, you can’t spin a cat without hitting another new form of it. Don’t rush out and call the SPCA on me I never spin cats, it is just a saying and I love cats.   Anyways back to my point and I do have one, Social Media is it a help or hindrance? Most people started out simply by texting, then  Facebook or LinkedIn took over their lives and then twittering and tweeting. Where does it stop, more importantly where does it get us? Since I write about dating and relating issues I would like to talk about how it affects our relationships. Logically we think social media should be good for our social lives, but is it really?  

I have to admit I am on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter  for my Business but I try to keep my social life out of it. I think that people, particularly Vancouverites have already lost the art of socializing and the last thing that we need to do is add anymore areas to distract us from talking face to face. As I have already discussed in my last post about online dating, behind closed doors (on the computer) many people have given into a little false advertising or creative embellishment and some a lot. I guess they can refer to that as artistic license, but I call it lying. We all know what happens when you actually meet and realize that the “Tall, smart and  40 something handsome man” can sometimes turn into the “short, overweight, balding, 60 ish man who lives with his parents ” when you actually meet him. Not that there is anything wrong with that, I am just saying. Let’s be honest  people! Yes I realize that women lie too! I am just making a point, people can be as creative as they like  online and are often overly confident, considering that in person they would never even think about approaching someone of the opposite sex that way.

Lets not forget the perverts and sociopaths that are hiding behind those computers, texts, e-mails etc.   Just watch the news or read the newspapers if you don’t believe me.

I realize that a lot of these forms of Social Media were created to help people in business and they can help to a degree, but eventually even in business you need to get face to face to establish that relationship!  You can’t make a sale if the client doesn’t trust you and we always want to deal with people we know and trust, hence the need for establishing those  business relationships.  As for our personal life I think that the less information you have about yourself online the better. We all know that employers (google or yahoo) online for any information about a potential employee, so make sure that anything that is online shows you in a positive light. The pictures of you drinking and staggering around holding onto who knows what is probably not going to land you that job, unless of course that is what you are being hired to do.    

So why are people not socializing as easily as they should. Men tell me that “women are unapproachable in Vancouver”, I say bull! Have as much confidence as you do online and give it a shot! I know for a fact that women want you to approach them and make the first move. They complain to me about how “ men don’t approach them”.  When I say approach them I mean as a gentleman, forget that (hey baby, how ya doin) approach. Try to have realistic expectations and don’t expect that everyone you try to talk to is available or looking for a relationship and they may have a jealous boyfriend. Approach with no expectations. Women if you want men to approach you, make sure that your welcome mat is out, be positive,  energetic and welcoming (smile) and you will be surprised at how many men will make that move. Come on people, you can do this!

Don’t get me started about texting, I don’t even have it on my phone and I don’t want it! If you want to talk to me, you have to talk to me in person, or at least on the phone, but I always prefer face to face. I have seen kids  and adults texting each other when they are in the same room. Good lord, how on earth are they even going to establish relationships when they can’t communicate face to face? And why would I want to know what someone is having for dinner in their tweeting, hello, I don’t really care and if you do, you really need to get out more, seriously. We live in a beautiful city full of beautiful people just waiting to meet you. We have the ocean, the mountains, the seawall,  there is so much to do, if you just get out there. If you want a relationship you have to step outdoors, unless of course you have a great  pizza delivery person that you have the hots for.    Good relationships are all about communication and intimacy, as helpful as social media can be we still need that personal contact. Besides have you ever tried to cuddle up to a computer, not so warm and cozy.

So yes if you are using social media for your business, absolutely, but if you are looking to better your social life, get outside and get  communicating and socializing face to face. We have all heard about networking for your business so why not socialize for your social life. It’s crazy enough that it just might work, hey it worked for our grandparents! If  you are too busy or all that fails, you know where to find me. I have helped lots of single people in Vancouver find the Match that Works and I would be happy to help you too!

PS. Yes I know that blogging is a form of social media but how else am I going to reach all of you that are sitting at home behind your computers?

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