What would you give for True Love? What does that mean to you? Someone that will love, appreciate and respect you just the way you are, even when you aren’t at your best. 
Most people tell me they would do anything to find that special someone that they could share that with. But what are they willing to do to get it? Are they willing to open their hearts up? I know it can be a scary place to be but it is necessary in order to find and maintain true love.
I continually talk to men who have said to me that they gave everything to their exes. They consider themselves givers and they really can’t figure out why their partners left. They tell me that they provided a splashy home and spent all this money on this or that. They took them out for dinner, once in awhile, bought them fancy clothes and can’t quite figure out why these women eventually left them. I will let you in on a secret men, “the women and the relationship that you really want can not be bought”. “You need to open your heart not your wallet“.
I understand that apparently men are hardwired to be the provider and take care of the family financially. (Although at 53 years of age I have never had a man take care of me that way, long term. So what am I doing? I seem to attract the exact opposite, but that is beside the story, back to the norm). According to statistics and experts in the field, men think that if they go to work and provide for their loved ones or potential partners that that is all they have to do and they actually believe this makes them a giver. Honestly men You can not buy love! If you honestly want a warm loving respectful relationship it has to come from your heart. You will have to pay attention, be respectful and considerate, thoughtful, affectionate as well as passionate and learn how to communicate effectively and that means listening as well as talking. As the saying goes “god gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason, try listening twice as much as you talk” and you will have a hell of a better chance at making that relationship into the one that you really want. This goes for women too!
I am not saying that you need to give up your career and go live off welfare and just work on your relationship, I am just saying that if you want the unconditional love you will also have to let your partner in and learn how to really give. Mothers tend to be nurturers and caregivers and sometimes they give so much that they forget about themselves till they find themselves feeling like a doormat. Trust me this is not a good feeling. I honestly think that most men are not aware that this happens and can’t understand when their partner says that they feel like they are alone in their relationship. Men say” But I am working as hard as I can (at work) she just doesn’t appreciate me“! Trust me men if you start pay attention instead, you will have a happier home-life.
Nowadays a lot of women are out there working and bringing in the bacon as well. Unfortunately the old idea of the stay- at- home wife is rarely possible any more. The cost of living has skyrocketed so high that women are also the breadwinners and when they go home they have to take care of the house, the children and try to make the relationship work. So men if you really want that relationship to work and you want that spark and love in your life, maybe your chances will be a little bit better if you remember to open your heart up, let your partner in, help her out a little in the home, with kids and with the relationship. Together the two of you can make your relationship something special.
As for all you single men out there (looking for true love) remember that while you are out there throwing your cash around trying to impress that woman, make sure that you open yourself up and make room for her. Show her that there is room in your heart and head just for her. Show her that you are willing to commit and make the effort to make this the lasting loving relationship that you both really want. What happens if you just throw money at a business, it quickly folds because you haven’t paid any attention to it. But if you give it your heart and soul it usually thrives! Just something to think about!
PS.If you can’t do this you are not ready for a relationship and you should take some valuable time off to take care of those issues before you start dating. Please save everyone the heartache!
PPSS. I do realize that there are some women out there and all they want is your wallet, but let’s be honest, those are not the women that you will find true lasting love with! Be aware, if she is half your age, chances are its not your butt she is after. Think about it the next time you feel that sense of entitlement!!!!!! Hey if you don’t believe me just ask Tiger!
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