Meryl plays a  divorced woman who finds herself a reluctant empty nester now that the last of  her 3 children is about to leave.  Otherwise she runs a successful bakery and things seem to be blooming and expanding everywhere, including her home that she is finally getting around to renovating, exactly the way she wants. She seems to have everything she wants, except for her non-existent love life.  Enter her ex-husband Alec, who left her for a much younger woman 10 years earlier. When their joint obligations throw them together, it becomes just a little evident that there seems to be some unfinished business. Is it just because the shoe is now on the other foot? Maybe it’s because Alec hasn’t been able to drop by and grab some pastry anytime he wants? Or is it that the new grass is not always greener? Â

It’s Complicated made me laugh out loud for so many reasons, I could actually picture myself being in that scenario. Alec was incredibly charming and yes  I’ll say it, sexy in his own way. He played his role so well, I could understand why both women could be attracted to him.  I almost felt a little sorry for him when you see that being married to a beautiful free-spirited young woman didn’t turn out to be all that he expected it would be; hey I said a little I am 53.  Why is it that older men are always surprised when this happens? It’s no surprise, except to Meryl when Alec starts yearning for the comforts of home or more importantly, his ex wife’s home. After all, it comes with a great cook, a wonderful mother, peace and quiet and forbidden passion with an old flame. While back at his young wife’s house he has a noisy kid, bigger financial demands and a hormonal woman. Not quite what he bargained for, but then, when is life ever the way we thought it would be?  

Add Steve Martin as a gun-shy fledgling male interest in Meryl’s life and hilarity ensues. I did feel compelled to want to take him on as a client, help him build his confidence and find him a loving partner.  Or maybe that is just my nurturing characteristic?

How many of you have ever wondered about an ex-loved one and considered going down that path again, has it ever worked out? Or did you just discover that the ship had passed and you truthfully prefer a sailboat anyways?  I think that most often you will find that whatever issues  there were in the first place are still there and the time to question going back to an ex is before you leave.Â

The best thing about It’s Complicated is  that while you are laughing yourself silly I found myself caring about everyone, yes even Alec.  I love a movie that makes me feel something and care for the characters and it did just that. I recommend this light-hearted movie for men and women, young and old. If you have been through a divorce, it may give you some satisfaction as well as something  to laugh at and if you are still married it may make you look at your partner with a little more insight.  So for all you men or women that think that you might be missing out and that you are entitled to a  newer younger model, be careful what you wish for. you just might get it!

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Every year many of us make resolutions to change things in the New Year.  So how many of you have made resolutions to never spend another holiday season by yourself? How many of you have decided that this year is the year that you are going to meet (the One)? The truth is there are actually many (ones) for all of us, if we actually open our minds,  remove those pesky expectations and honestly look at what we really need in a relationship to make us happy.

As most of you know I am a professional Matchmaker and I am given a pretty huge shopping list when I am looking for potential partners for my clients. Mostly because I ask them for one, so don’t blame them, I need to know what characteristics they value in a partner.While we are going through the process of questions though I am always surprised by men who insist that the first priority that they are looking for in a woman is that she is beautiful, fit, thin and young (of course) even if they are not themselves.    Even if some of the wealthier older men  do end up with these women, they are always surprised when life with the younger beautiful women does not turn out to be all they really thought it would be. (Anyone see the latest movie, It’s Complicated with Alec Baldwin, Meryl Streep and Steve Martin?) I would recommend this movie to anyone over the age of 30,  Alec, Meryl and Steve are hysterical!!! This movie proves my point perfectly! Be careful what you ask for you just might get it. http://itscomplicatedmovie.com/

Ladies  you don’t get off scott free either, not all the best men in the world look like Brad Pitt, George Clooney or have money like Tiger Williams. Have you seen the news lately? Good looks and money will not make you happy, at least not for a long time.  Besides who wants to date someone who is prettier than you and is constantly having women throw themselves at them. NO Thanks! I want to be attracted to my partner, but I want to know that he thinks that I am the most beautiful women in the world, even if I am not.   Isn’t that what we all want, we want to know that our partner respects, adores, appreciates and is proud of us. That goes for men and women. Sure money is always nice but it will not guarantee happiness! Just ask Tiger’s lovely suffering but now very rich wife. I would wager that she would rather have had a loving trustworthy, honest man to  help her raise her family and grow old with.

So Let’s make sure and make 2010 the best that we can. If you have decided that it is time to meet someone who you can share the rest of our life with, that is half the battle.  It’s like taking a trip, the first step is deciding that we want to go, the next is deciding how to get there and  the third is making sure that we are packed and ready to go. If you are ready to take that first step (looking for a partner) and are needing a little help, call me, I can help you widen your playing field. It is still up to you to make the relationship work.  Make sure that are ready willing and able to go forward when you find that special someone, put your best foot forward and try not to put any expectations on your potential partner and you may just be pleasantly surprised. I don’t know about you but I love surprises.

2010 is going to be a great year, as long as you look for the positives, you will always find them.

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